Overcome the cruel “you’re too sensitive” comment

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“You’re too sensitive!” Ever hear that? It’s usually accompanied by “You’re making stuff up!” or my personal favorite “Get over it!”

These terms are spewed with a vexing tone, as if you are wrong, or a nuisance. These aren’t phrases you’d think to answer “thank you” to. But, turns out, a cheeky “thanks” might be the perfect response. After all, how will our not-so-sensitive counterparts ever learn from us with a pick in our mouths?

If you’re what Dr. Elaine Aaron calls the “highly sensitive person” (or HSP), you may have had trouble fitting in or feeling appreciated. In her bestselling book – The Highly Sensitive Person – Aaron gives sensitive people a voice, and debunks some of the myths out there.  Even though it can feel like a curse at times, here are 5 instances when your sensitivity is going to give you a leg up. From one sensitive-gal to another:

  • Emotional Awareness. The greatest artists and musicians and creatives or this world… Yup, all highly sensitive. Your ability to truly feel gives you an edge when expressing your inner truth and your true nature. Embrace it! You may give others the means to feel their feelings, too.
  • Human Lie Detector. It’s really difficult to get something past you! You’re an honesty ninja. Perhaps it’s a husband, child, boss, or co-worker that isn’t telling the whole truth, but you see through it. How? You just feel it, cuz you’re awesome like that!
  • Dining Out. Have you ever walked into a restaurant or café and know exactly where you do (or don’t) want to sit? Of course you do! Because you are sensitive to it! Perhaps your intuition is telling you were to sit to avoid a slip or getting seated in a section with a –less-than-pleasant server. Food for thought.
  • It takes a lot of bravery to sit with someone else’s pain and sympathize. Being able to mirror someone’s pain (just for a little while) can offer them major healing. Think about the last time someone offered you deep listening – one the best things you can do for someone in need. Be careful though, as it can cause energy depletion and taking on other people’s “stuff.” Read this now to protect yourself. And this.
  • Making Decisions. Highly sensitive people can access the subtle details of their environment. This can come in handy when making decisions such as: where to go to school, which job offer to take, whether or not to go to that party. You can detect people’s mood and intentions before they may even have the chance to! Use this to your advantage to choose what’s right for you, and know when to walk away from something.

When is the last time you told yourself you were too sensitive? Probably never. If the message is coming from other people, let them know that your sensitivities are part of your natural movement, and you see them as beautiful and helpful! Perhaps a little more understanding could go a long way. Your sensitivities were given to you as a compass, to find your unique path in life. Good luck, be patient, and enjoy yours gifts.

For more info, check out these amazing resources: 30 Important Websites for Highly Sensitive People and A Highly Sensitive Person’s Life blog.

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5 Secrets to Keeping Your Garments Beautiful for Life

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By: Lisa Saccoia

Finally! You found that perfect dress! It hugs and flares everywhere it’s supposed to. Score! Yet, after a few washes, its lost its luster and you can’t even recognize your once beloved garment. Where it was fitted, it’s now boxy. Where it was a bold hue of blue, it’s now a hint of gray.

Fret not, these easy tricks will keep your garments from turning boxy, shrunken, and lack-luster.

  1. Use Mesh Laundry Bags: Mesh bags are perfect for washing silks, under garments, and anything delicate. Use the delicate cycle on cold water. Hang them on a drying rack to dry. Never put nice, delicate clothes in the tumble drier, it’ll lose shape over time. Extra hint: No matter what the size of your mesh bag, never stuff it full. Let items breathe and have room. InsideSmarts is just one brand.
  2. Take time for details: Take a few extra minutes to button your blouses, and zip and secure your bottoms. This will ensure that items don’t catch on each other, and unravel to their doom! If there are loose strings (hoodies or draw-string pants) tie them to make sure they don’t tangle on other items.
  3. Turn it inside out: Turning dark clothing inside out helps fading. The same rule applies to sweaters, as you can avoid pilling.
  4. Treat stains with love: Accidents happen! Immediately remove the garment and spot-wash with a stain remover. In the wash, use a powdered detergent as it has more traction for getting stains out. If the stain doesn’t come out in the first wash cycle, treat the stain again. Don’t let the garment dry until the stain is gone. With heat, the stain will set and become permanent. When in doubt, wear an apron! You’ll look cute, feminine, and keep your unique clothing looking special for decades.
  5. Detergents are not created equal: If you’re worried about chemicals in your beauty and cleaning products, you’re not alone. The eco-friendly market continues to grow each year. Method brand makes amazing soaps and detergents. When shopping, look for detergents with the “Cruelty-Free” and “Paraben Free” labels. If you don’t live near a store that carries these products, shop on Amazon.com and Vitacost.com. They have an amazing selection of eco-friendly cleaning products.

When you buy a garment, it’s an investment you make to look and feel great. These tips will help you keep your clothing looking new and beautiful on you for years to come. Happy washing!

Capsule Closet: Hottest Spring Trend for Ultimate Luxury on the Cheap

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By: Lisa Saccoia

I confess. I’m the girl who has clothes strewn about so I can “find them.”

I also declare war on items that no longer fit, lost color, or have holes, yet somehow they end up back in my closet. Whaat? I can’t be the only one, right? Why do we do this? Is it because we feel guilty, or think “someday”? Or maybe we were Depression Era babies in a past life. Either way…

Here are this season’s hottest trends for surviving Spring Cleaning. If you do it right, you’ll add more joy to your life by having less “stuff”!

Jennifer L. Scott, author of the best-seller Lessons from Madam Chic,  has turned a woman’s worst nightmare into a chic lifestyle solution: a 10-item wardrobe. Yep, 10. T-e-n. How does she do it? Watch her inspiring TedTalk to find out. She also posts a new video to her YouTube Channel, The Daily Connoisseur, every Sunday.

Japanese organizational queen Marie Kondo, author of The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up, says only to keep pieces that “spark joy.” If they don’t, Justin Timberlake those suckers and say “Bye, Bye, Bye!” It’s the perfect song to play while cleaning out your closet. Need some motivation? Check out her Talks at Google here.

And then there’s the “Closet Capsule” phenomenon.   No, it’s not a closet where you put Sci-Fi movies you don’t watch. Much like Scott’s 10-item-wardrobe, it’s rooted in the idea that less is more, and investment pieces is where it’s at. No more buying throw-away pieces with every changing season. The fabulous and brave women behind Project 333 and Unfancy live the “Closet Capsule” phenomenon. Can you?

Could you part with your wardrobe in the name of living simple? Is our generation straying from the land-o-plenty mentality and finding freedom from these trends?  I want to hear from you! Share your comments and ideas below.